It's really fucking triggering to think about how dance teams that claim to be about women's empowerment support rapists and rapist apologists.
I used to be on Organ Grinders Dance Team which turned into Sassyracs and Jamettes.
Sassyracs includes Maria Theresa Parra (works at a hosipital in billing) who I believe is the sister in law to my rapist Floyd Falcon. Him and Stephanie Fisher his wife march with Maria and Sassyracs and they continue to party together.
Sassyracs knows about me being raped and support this. But they dismiss me on my rape.
This includes Alexis Chernrow, an attorney and public defender. It's supposed to be her job to help yet she supports rapists and rapist apologists.
Emily Loska, a mental health worker that also once argued with me about whether she could use the term fall on deaf ears.
Liz Walker, a nurse who dances in parades during a high risk stage of COVID despite the death and sickness rates but yet went off on me claiming that my status letting people know wearing hearing aids hurt like masks was dismissive to COVID sooo she's just ableist and misogynist.
Gaby Biro, a hair stylist that I really expected not to go party with rapists and the people that support rapists. I really thought she was a good person before.
On Jamettes end it was Nicole Spruill Hudson's husband Scott Hudson that told me I should stop talking about my rape because no one cares. She's a teacher.
Oh and one time she even contacted me to teach her signs so she could teach her class those signs. I didn't realize then because of self advocacy struggles and shut downs but this is exploitation of Deaf culture, my labor, and my trauma for profit. She should have paid a Deaf person to come teach. She can't even sign. It's really fucked up.
Hair stylist Shannon Detrow supports Nicole regardless of her alignment with rapists and rapist supporters.
The Jamettes support this. And they are comprised of members of KOOM which support my rapist and the guy that told me I wouldn't have been raped if I was sober.
They also include Sakarra Dancy who once argued with me that it was okay for her to make fun of Deaf people signing with animal noises and that I was overreacting.
Be warned: These people will not help you unless it is to get you fucked up and violate your boundaries.
When you have an entire group of mostly women dismissing rape, telling you to get over being fingered without consent cause it was years ago or they don't believe it happened so they can keep on as normal anyway it is triggering as hell.
The fact that these are the people that are supposed to be thought leaders in the community scares the fucking shit out of me!!
I can't go anywhere because everywhere I go in this city are people who support my rapist and dismiss my rape like this.
It sucks and hurts so much
These are people I met and knew between ages 12 and 25. I thought they were family. This was the most formative years of my life. And holy fuck.
I was abused by this community and all they care about is fucking partying.
And they're like we don't know what you want us to do but you have a bad attitude so we are gonna hang with your rapist not support you because good vibes only.
I don't know if I will ever get over this shit. People say when a person gets raped that that person is somehow unable to deal with society or feel okay around others as if it's an issue for that person who was raped alone to work through. But the truth is that person saw all the people around that allow their rapist to continue to be free while we who are raped never feel safe again. TRASH: Rape Culture in New Orleans Music
Updated: Feb 22
Why Don't People Come Forward About Assault?
People ask all the time, why aren’t these issues reported? Why don’t people speak out? Look at what happens to the people who do speak out...
Here’s a list of all the people who are my rapist/support my rapist/performed for my rapist/support my rapist apologists/are rapist apologists/have dismissed my rape that I know of since it happened:
Maria Theresa Parra
Lola Jean Darling aka Lo aka Lolo Beware aka Lo Cee
Victoria Grace Carney Rodriguez
Lyndz Paul Carney
Sherrie June Smith
Nicole Spruill Hudson
Celeste & Chester
Ashley Moon Walker
Victoria that fucks Bryan Evans idk her last name
All members of Krewe of Overnight Marignade
All staff and supporters of Monkey Monkey
All members of Krewe of Krewe
All members of Krewe of Oak
All members of Iko All Stars
All staff of Maple Leaf Bar especially whoever was working Halloween night 2018
Anyone who supports Maple Leaf Bar or Trash Pile Nola
So many people I can’t even list them all, these are just some of the ones that pissed me off the most. In my case it is the New Orleans music scene.
So why don’t people come forward? Cause when you do, you no longer have a community.
People don’t speak out due to their own version of these people in their life.
If it weren’t for these people, my rapist wouldn’t have gotten away that night. My rapist wouldn’t still be free. I could have been helped or protected if these people used their social influence to defend me or speak out against Floyd, especially the ones who were there that night and the ones who continue to support him.
These are the same people who have a history for covering up assault in the community. The reason it all continues.
So why does rape culture exist? Look around. It’s the people right next to you. Unless you are anti rape culture, then it is you.
For more specifics to the story, reference: https://www.noladeafchild.com/post/trash-rape-culture-in-new-orleans-music
I had conflicting thoughts on whether to post these screenshots. On one hand receiving them made me felt validated. On the other I felt gaslit further. I am fucking sick and tired of the abuse!!!!!!!! I am having fucking break downs over this shit. I am over it.
Even though I don't think this excuses my sister dismissing my rape and supporting my rapist, these people also fucking covered up her husband or ex husband I don't know what the fuck they are Diego Rodriguez breaking her wrist plus don't get me started on how they treat their kid sooo.....
FUCK THESE PEOPLE FOR CONTINUING TO MAKE ME FEEL GASLIT AND DISMISSED IN REGARDS TO RAPE CULTURE AND ASSAULT IN THE COMMUNITY. YOU ARE THE FUCKING PROBLEM. ME TALKING ABOUT THIS DOESN'T MEAN "I AM NOT HEALED". THAT'S DISMISSIVE AS SHIT. YOU DIP FUCKS NEED TO TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR YOUR FUCKING BEHAVIOR. IF YOU THINK CALLING YOU OUT "MAKES ME A NAZI" BUT BEATING THE SHIT OUT OF PEOPLE AND VIOLATING SEXUAL CONSENT DOESN'T MAKE YOU ONE, THEN YOU ARE A FUCKING HYPOCRITE AND CAN SUCK MY HAIRY WOLF DICK.
The only good thing about me losing most of my network is that the timing aligned with the pandemic, and these are the people who have spread/are spreading the virus.
Culture exists in the power of the community. Everyone likes to think that it's individuals who act badly so only they are responsible. But how the individuals act as a whole matters too. If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. You choose how far you are going together. How far are you willing to let things go for social status?
Updated: Apr 13, 2021
I will likely continue sharing until Trashpile is closed and im certain im only surrounded by people who give a fuck about sexual assault. I also want to see the people I name take true accountability and responsibility for their fucking actions. Public safety warning to stay away from Trashpile and the following people....
I’m upset about Floyd Falcon assaulting me Halloween 18 when he came up behind me at Maple Leaf Bar, reached under my dress, grabbed my ass, and shoved his fingers up my vagina.
I turned around, slapped him and shoved him off of me
This was at a Krewe of Overnight Marignade meetup (KOOM is a social club full of a lot of people, including all the musicians I’m calling out).
My mom was there. Saw the whole thing, and she’s one of the reasons I’ve not felt insane right now.
They kicked me out of Maple Leaf for causing a scene.
All that was in KOOM took Floyd’s side.
Bryan Evans said it wouldn’t have happened if I was sober.
They made Bryan Evans the organizer of the parties.
They continued to plan events with Floyd Falcon.
Now Floyd Falcon has opened up trash pile music venue.
They continue to play for him.
My sister posts selfies with Bryan Evans and attends KOOM functions.
Floyd Falcon has sexually assaulted me and is known to have sexually assaulted others.
I was raped as a kid couldn't do anything, raped at 17 couldn't do anything, sexually assaulted at 24 and I'm still trying to do something!
I’m upset about rape culture this has to change.
Gnatalie Crawford sent me 2 messages once in 2019 and once 2021 telling me that I am harming them and they have nothing to do with rape culture and Bryan Evans said in regards to this I'm having an episode, referring to my mental health.
They are ableist and sexist and dangerous. Please be careful around these people and warn others.
Koom, Floyd Falcon, Gravity A, The Quickening, Hash Cabbage, PYMP, Gnatalie Crawford, my sister Victoria Rodriguez owner of Monkey Monkey, and Bryan Evans are all part of New Orleans music scene rape culture.
People be like stfu about your trauma and remove yourself from triggers then ask why you're suicidal when i ask over and over and over to do something about the guy that sexually assaulted me instead of
1. Kicking me out of venue night of instead him.
2. Telling me it wouldn't have happened if i was sober.
3. Organizing events under leadership that believes sobriety negates consent during the years of grab em by the pussy.
4. Telling me there's nothing you can do the 1st 4 months after I tried to handle within krewe.
5. Sending me messages to be quiet when I start speaking out Mardi Gras 2019.
6. Continuing to do events with guy that sexually assaulted me.
7. Telling me when I speak out I’m having episodes and harming the community.
8. Turning around sending messages acting like you want to support after just telling me I was having an episode, saying it wouldn't happen if i was sober, gaslighting me for years, doing events with sexual assaulter for years, never apologizing, never admitting what you did, never advocating for me, is triggering and I truly believe you are manipulative and dangerous and again is a different way of telling me to stfu.
9. Here's what you can do to support... tell everyone you know Floyd Falcon is my sexual assaulter that trash pile music venue is dangerous that Bryan Evans and Gnatalie Crawford bullied me into silence for years that koom is dangerous and filled with several members who are silent for fear of their living or ability to make a living regarding domestic and sexual abuse in the krewe that gets shoved under the rug in the name of SEE YOU AT DA PARTY.
How can you support someone who has been sexually assaulted after telling her it wouldn't have happened if she wasn't inebriated and that if she speaks out about it she's having an episode or harming the community and that by doing events with the sexual assaulter you are not involved in rape culture but you just want to support?
First begin by never contacting them ever again. You have triggered too much and are not worth anyone's time.
Second don't kick out the person who was sexually assaulted out of the venue for the koom meetup you organized kick out the sexual assaulter to begin with
Third dont continue to do events with sexual assaulter while telling the person who was sexually assaulted that you have nothing to do with rape culture
Fourth recognize you continue to go on as normal whereas I no longer trust in anyone to protect me or care for me and it makes me switch hard between suicidal and pissed to know that after 12 years of friendship you care more about dismissing me as talking shit than the fact that I was sexually assaulted
Fifth recognize the struggle I am having with my sexuality, mental health, and sexual expression due to my sexual trauma these are long term effects due to the culture you have supported
Sixth until you do the work to dismantle this system and evaluate your role you can suck my fucking dick from the back. Edit 4/13: This is what gaslighting looks like in the form of that toxic positivity bull shit. Fuck off with that!!
And on this post I am linking every post I ever made about this on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexislarindacarney/posts/10224919065910084